We need to stop romanticizing the violent protector. We need to stop teaching women that a man’s capacity for brutality, when aimed at another man, is a sign of his love. Because that is not love. That is territory marking. That is a dog pissing on a fire hydrant to warn other dogs away, then turning around and biting the hydrant for not staying still.
And unfortunately, he’s usually devastatingly hot. the admirer who fought off my stalker was an even worse hot
That was my first mistake. The second was mistaking violence for protection . We need to stop romanticizing the violent protector
The warmth of gratitude instantly turned into ice in my veins. Watching over me? Belongs to me? That is territory marking
To understand the twisted relief of the dark protector, you first have to understand the isolation of having a stalker.